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This article is part of\u00a0Upstream,<\/a>\u00a0The Daily Wire\u2019s new home for culture and lifestyle. Real human insight and human stories \u2014 from our featured writers to you.<\/em><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n When my husband and I got married just six years ago, AI was more the provenance of sci-fi than scenes from everyday life. Today, it\u2019s everywhere. We use it for everything from <\/span>meal prep<\/span><\/a> to <\/span>research<\/span><\/a> to relationship advice and even actual relationships<\/em>. So it should be no surprise that many couples admit to using large language models to help them write their wedding vows.<\/span><\/p>\n In a survey of over 200 engaged couples, \u201c36% of respondents reported actively using AI in their wedding planning and 3 in 10 have used image-based AI tools for inspiration or planning,\u201d <\/span>reports<\/span><\/a> wedding website The Knot. \u201cIn last year\u2019s 2025 Wedding Trends to Watch Report, we found that only 20% were using AI, pointing to the growing relevance of AI in the industry.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n And while AI can be a useful planning tool, the red flag appeared when an undisclosed number of those using it said they had it give them pointers for their wedding-vow writing. This has been happening for at least a few years: A 2023 article from CNN <\/span>proclaimed<\/span><\/a>, \u201cCouples are using ChatGPT to write their wedding vows.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n The piece opened with Elyse Nguyen, a young woman who said she worked with AI to craft her wedding vows \u2014 with her future husband\u2019s blessing. \u201cIt helped alleviate some stress because I had no prior experience with wedding vows nor did I know what should be included,\u201d Nguyen said.<\/span><\/p>\n In an article from Cosmopolitan just last month, U.K.-based wedding celebrant Eleanor Willock <\/span>claimed<\/span><\/a>, \u201cI see every one of my couples\u2019 vows before their wedding day. I\u2019d say around 30% this year have involved AI.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Now, there are countless options for future brides and grooms struggling with writer\u2019s block. The website <\/span>Toastie.ai<\/span><\/a> promises to help brides capture their \u201clove story in vows as beautiful and unique as your relationship \u2014 without any stress.\u201d <\/span>Wedding.One<\/span><\/a> has an AI vow generator that lets you input names and relationship details and select the appropriate length and tone. I put a few bits of information about my husband and me in, and the results were comical.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cToday I take you as my husband, promising to cherish our moments, from cooking together in our kitchen, to hosting friends with laughter and joy,\u201d the vows began. \u201cI vow to support you, to share in your dreams, and to fill our lives with the warmth of indie and folk music that echoes our love.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Well, at least AI won\u2019t be monopolizing wedding vows anytime soon.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I also tried Google Gemini, without offering too much information about our relationship. The results were generic, clich\u00e9d, and boring.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201c[Fianc\u00e9\u2019s Name], standing here with you today feels like the best decision I\u2019ve ever made,\u201d it started. \u201cOver our time together, you have become my greatest adventure and my safest place. We\u2019ve done so much growing up together, and I feel incredibly lucky that I get to spend the rest of my life watching us continue to grow side-by-side.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n It went on, suggesting lines about being \u201cyour biggest cheerleader and your softest landing,\u201d promising good communication (widely believed to be the most important element of a relationship, don\u2019t you know), and forecasting \u201cfun\u201d and \u201cfriendship\u201d and \u201claughter.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s not likely that anyone is taking vows straight from AI at its first effort, but the fact that so many people are now relying on it for such a sacred task raises several concerns. Most obviously, doesn\u2019t asking your friendly neighborhood LLM for help indicate that you just weren\u2019t willing to take the time and concentration to express how you, and only you, really feel? Imagine Jane Austen\u2019s \u201cPersuasion,\u201d but instead of his desperately romantic letter, Captain Wentworth copies a Rupi Kaur poem and calls it a day.<\/span><\/p>\n But beyond the clear issues with farming out your love letters to robots, there is a solution here that would make the stress of vow-writing and the temptation of an AI boost totally irrelevant. And that solution is traditional vows, the ones couples have been repeating for hundreds of years.<\/span><\/p>\n I grew up in the Anglican church and I had an Anglican wedding, so all I had to do was grab my Book of Common Prayer to remember what my husband and I <\/span>pledged<\/span><\/a> to each other: \u201cIn the Name of God, I, [my name], take you, [my husband\u2019s name], to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death, according to God\u2019s holy Word. This is my solemn vow.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Some older vows say \u201cI plight thee my troth,\u201d which is old-timey for \u201cI pledge to be faithful to you.\u201d As one Episcopal rector <\/span>explains<\/span><\/a> it, \u201cThe man and the woman are each saying to the other, \u2018I promise, with all that I am, to be true to you; I stake my honor, my integrity \u2014 my troth \u2014 on keeping these vows.\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n No \u201cI promise to put down the toilet seat\u201d and no \u201cI promise only to use your credit card on days that end in <\/span>y<\/span><\/i>.\u201d A wedding ceremony isn\u2019t the time to be glib; you\u2019re making a lifelong commitment before God, your family, and your community. The jokes can come later at the reception \u2014 when everyone has had too much to drink and they\u2019ll land better anyway. As for the sweet memories and shared stories, there\u2019s a place for them too: in letters exchanged before the ceremony or toasts throughout the wedding weekend.<\/span><\/p>\n A marriage is not just about the couple entering into it but also the institution itself and the couple\u2019s vows to God and their community. The ceremony is not the time for bespoke statements. It is the time to pledge fidelity to each other in the same way as countless couples before you. And that\u2019s something AI can\u2019t even attempt to replace. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n